Growing up in the church in which I now serve has had its ups and downs. There were seasons of life where I wanted to get away and “recreate” myself. I did not want to be known as the 6 year old, 14 year old or even 21 year old version of myself. These versions seemed to haunt me every time I attempted to do something new and exciting. Parents of my childhood friends would always seem to have a comment around what I was doing and it somehow always related to the past.
While reinventing myself seemed like a glorious reality, the truth is, I am so incredibly thankful for the friendships that I have had for over twenty-five years- yes you read that right! The “Fab4” as we affectionately called ourselves is a group of my three girlfriends and I who have known each other since our mothers were nursing us in the church infant room. We have somehow managed to survive elementary school fights, middle school puberty, high school drama and college relationships. We are now all in our mid (I refuse to say late) twenties and continue to be the closest of friends.
One friend is a fellow blogger, she is the one who I go to when I need help figuring out layouts, presets and good collaborating companies. Another is a teacher and coach who helps remind me that the crazy schedule of coaching is both possible and fun! The third is a young mama like me who is trying to navigate life, family and ministry while maintaining a thriving marriage and relationship with Jesus. Each friendship is unique, strong and life-giving. These are the friendships I guard with the highest priority as they are the ones who have walked with me through the ups and downs of life. Together we have walked through marriage, divorce, children and the loss of siblings, parents and grandparents.
As someone in full-time ministry, it is easy to believe the lie that we must always be on the clock. Everything seems urgent and downtime is not allowed. I completely disagree with that sentiment, though. Girl, you need to take time for yourself. Pour yourself your favorite drink, watch the latest episode of that TV show, blast your favorite song while you’re in the car alone, take the bubble bath, go on dates with your man, cuddle with your babies and invest in the friendships that fill your cup. You are worthless if you have nothing to offer. Do not allow yourself to get so empty that you cannot fill others up.
Laugh, cry, sing, dance, pray and gather- these are the things that will keep you going when life seems too tough to handle.